There is a third option if you are facing only these two.

Postponing the futile priorities is one thing, postponing the activities going to take you for the next level is inadmissible. Productivity is a ever increasing subject, with floods of teachings on ‘how to get things done’. Going from point A to point B can have infinite different routes.

“It’s easy to be brave from a safe distance” — Aesop

But this isn’t another text about productivity, this text is about self-love, and today I share because I stopped waiting for approval, I started approving myself. I am thankful to be a learner in the craft of writing, while having the courage to share…

Talking about self-love in this society is often confused as self-help, as romantic, or utopic. The difference between self-help and philosophy is that the first cares only for the improvement of itself, the other cares for the improvement of the society as one, because we are one.

To love yourself is to learn how to identify your own priority, and act towards it, listening to your inner guidance, your feelings, your thoughts, your coincidences. We suddenly are in this huge gray hall, with a green carpet and lots of doors. You cannot see the end, and it seems like the same pattern is repeating over and over. The only difference? The left doors are blue, the right doors are red. And it’s time to choose one to open, which one would you?

Blue doors vs. Red doors

Red doors are the ones involved in poor choices, the detrimental array of choices that is either to attend another human expectation or to satisfy our egocentric monkey mind.

Blue doors are the ones that uplift our mood, the ones that provide a sense of accomplishment and progress being made. The not-so perfect choices are often made by intuition, but to be specific, experience takes a huge part.

Third option: Create your own door

So, facing a choice needing to be made, we get two options, usually. If you accept the given state, than you don’t question the nature of the source. But there is a third one, the option to create your own door. And that is the creativity door, the one which you are allowed to choose the color, shape, size and design.

But to have the third option, one must have increased the frequency of the internal performance, because the choice will propagate. It involves a range of perception, the period of time, and also the duration of the cycle in which this type of choices can be maid.

Speaking in a general way, if you are not making your plans, then someone else is making them for you. And a good way to have options that cross the border of the square box is to have focus only in the now moment, that’s when your empowerment is. The past it’s already gone and the future is yet to come.